Back to School, Back to Balance: Emotional Dexterity for a Smooth Start

 

The back-to-school season brings more than just new pencils and schedules—it comes with a swirl of emotions. Excitement, anxiety, hope, and overwhelm all show up at once—for students, parents, and teachers alike. 

Whether it’s the first day of kindergarten or the final year of high school, transitions can trigger emotional stress. That’s where emotional dexterity becomes a game-changer. 

In this post, we’ll explore how to use emotional tools from Beyond Emotional Intelligence to stay grounded, confident, and emotionally strong through the school year’s early challenges. 

1. Reset the Emotional Mindset

The biggest stressor? The pressure to perform perfectly from day one.

Instead, focus on building a mindset of progress, not perfection. Help your child (and yourself) reframe the year as a journey of learning—emotionally and academically. 

Mantra: “Mistakes are not failures; they’re feedback.”

Practice: Start the day with a short affirmation like, “Today I will grow, not just go.” 

2. Recognize & Regulate Emotional Triggers

New environments, peer dynamics, and performance anxiety can trigger unexpected emotions. That’s normal. The power lies in recognizing them early. 

Emotional Dexterity Skill: IRRA

  • Identify what you're feeling
  • Recognize where it’s coming from
  • Respond in a constructive way
  • Anticipate future emotional triggers

Mini Exercise: At the end of each school day, ask:

  • “What went well emotionally today?”
  • “What stressed you out?”
  • “How can we better prepare tomorrow?” 

3. Flip the Emotional Light Switch

If a meltdown looms—whether it’s a missed bus or a forgotten lunch—use emotional creators to flip the script. 

Quick Emotional Resets:

  • Deep breathing (Box Breathing: 4 in, hold 4, out 4, hold 4)
  • Music playlists that shift mood
  • Gratitude journaling before bed
  • A sensory item in a backpack (like a calming stone or scent) 

Small rituals create big emotional shifts. 

4. Create Predictable Routines for Safety

Emotional stability often thrives in structure. Predictable routines help reduce anxiety and give kids a sense of control. 

Tips:

  • Prep backpacks and clothes the night before.
  • Use checklists with both tasks and emotional intentions (e.g. “Be kind to myself today”).
  • Build in wind-down time after school, not just homework. 

5. Open the Door for Conversation

Emotional dexterity isn’t just internal—it grows through connection. Create space for daily emotional check-ins. 

Instead of asking: “How was your day?”
Try: “What made you feel proud today?” or “What was the most challenging moment emotionally?”

Kids (and adults) learn to regulate their emotions by having them validated, not dismissed. 

Final Thought: The Real Goal Isn’t Just Academic

What if this school year wasn’t just about grades or performance, but about learning emotional confidence? 

By practicing emotional awareness, regulation, and resilience, you’re not just helping your student succeed—you’re helping them thrive. 

Let’s send our kids back to school equipped with the most important tools of all: emotional strength, clarity, and courage.

About the Author

Dr. Drew Gold is an Associate Professor of Management at Saint Leo University and an Adjunct Associate Professor at the University of North Carolina.  His areas of expertise include technology and innovation management, research methods and statistics, strategic management, and personal and professional development.  He has spent over a decade developing his concept of Emotional Dexterity, which is reflected in his book “Beyond Emotional Intelligence: Never Have Another Bad Day!” 

Dr. Gold is married and lives with his wife and two crazy cats in Tampa, Florida. He loves to travel and is a master scuba diver trainer and loves college sports, especially his Ohio State Buckeyes!  O-H- 

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